What do we lose?

Hi Everyone,

I've had an ileostomy for 15 years now and a general matter that I've come across is that a lot of Ladies have spoken about losing their Femininity since having to wear a stoma bag. This, of course, is very understandable amongst other insecurities and adaptations that We've all had to face. As far as Men losing any sort of Masculinity, I can, of course, comment that this is also true. I've had numerous rejections from able-bodied Ladies in the past because there are many physical and psychological issues to face. So I would be interested maybe in hearing peoples' opinions about how they feel their dating options now stand. Do you feel more secure and hopeful with dating a fellow ostomate or would you keep your options open to dating from a wider circle?

 sunflower111, Woman 58  Saint John New Brunswick

I agree with Catariffic... I would rather find someone who also has an ostomy...dating is hard enough *without* an ostomy! Frown But you never know who just might be ok with it so staying open to possibilities. Smile

 catariffic, Woman 57  Narka Kansas

I would rather find someone who also has an ostomy...dating is hard enough *without* an ostomy!

 auntyk22, Woman 32  Brighton East Sussex

I have to say that I know this feeling all too well, I was talking to my sister and she brought to my attention that although on a day to day basis I am not really afraid to show my Ileostomy when it comes to intimate relations I am terrified of how somebody would react to my body.