- 4 Jul, 2020
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- Gillingham, Kent, United Kingdom
- Body type:
- Home and family
- Marital status:
- Single / never married
- In my own words:
F**K I’m nearly 41!!!
Well, I've had Colitis since I was 19 so that took care of college and dating. I eventually needed surgery in April 2015. After several more surgeries and further procedures later (7 in total), I now live with an ileostomy, cured of colitis but with some other post-surgery complications.
With a myriad of life challenges and overcoming multiple adversities throughout my life both health and non-health related, I was once a strong, resilient man. But 2019 was my worst year. It broke me. I gained a tonne of weight, became severely depressed and suffered from anxiety. I locked myself away and stopped communicating with friends and family. The smallest of things would set me off thinking it’s the end of the world or make me emotional. Yes, I contemplated… well let’s not go there.
But in later part of 2019, with inspiration and help from several books and YouTube videos I decided enough was enough!! I can’t keep living this way. I literally Forced myself to think differently. Reset my mindset and started from scratch. I started to be grateful for all of the small things I do have that I began to take for granted. Long story short, I am now in a better place but of course not perfect.
Every day is hard and I acknowledge my positive mindset is fragile. I know I must earn confidence and a positive outlook DAILY. It’s not infinite and it’s not free. Life is hard and life can suck, the sooner we accept that as definitive, we can try to focus our energies on what we can change. In turn finding those things that make us happy.
Luckily throughout everything I still have my humour!
It would be really nice to meet people and make friends with men and women to discuss the joys, sadness, challenges of life and see who has been poked in the bum more over the years. Bet I win.
I want to try to help and motivate people to get out of their rut and to look forward to life instead of resenting it.
I’m not on here just for dating alone so if any males (or females) want to chat, get in touch!
Love you all, bye!!!
Colitis; Don't fail because of it, Succeed Despite It
Always SDI > Always Succeed Despite It
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